This is not typical marriage counseling that you may have already tried. Instead, this highly specialized relationship intervention can take place with or without your partner's immediate participation. My laser-like focus is on stopping the present damage (the love-killing "process of disaffection"), preserving what positive connection remains, identifying the emotional wounds (past/present hurt and resentment), and planning a strategy (short and long-term) for relationship recovery and rebuilding, fully accepting that each partner (whether living together or separated) is in a very different emotional place with very different present needs. My dedicated mission is to explore and create pathways to love and relationship satisfaction. I don't judge or make marital death pronouncements. No one has a crystal ball and as long as thoughts and perceptions are free to change, so too can emotions. Throughout our meetings, be they individual or conjoint sessions, I remain devoted to helping you save your relationship and make it work for you.
This is often seen as "11th hour and 59th minute" rescue work by the partner who is most interested in saving the relationship. If this is YOU, we want to rapidly understand HOW you have contributed to the relationship difficulties and WHAT you can now do from day to day to emotionally soften your partner, demonstrate your ability/willingness to change, and to STOP doing more emotional damage. This last point can not be emphasized enough. You must rapidly learn how and when to emotionally connect with your partner, and how to love your partner the way she (or he) wishes to be loved. Your partner may not feel "in love" with you at this time. It may seem hopeless, but your job now is to put your own happiness aside as you show your partner that you are now making positive and permanent personal changes that can be trusted to build a better relationship in the future. Mistakes and missteps at this time can be very, very costly. Let me guide you through this treacherous and unforgiving emotional terrain and assist you in your self-change goals.
If you are the disaffected partner following months or years of having your emotional needs largely ignored, you may have buried your hurt and resentment from feeling uncared about or even betrayed by your partner. You may feel like you have been the only one working at the relationship while your partner has been taking you for granted. You may be tired of the emotional roller coaster and your own flip-flopping about what to do. There are so many things to consider aside from your own happiness. There is so much at stake. You know you don't want things going back to the way they were, plus you don't want to give your partner false hope for reconciliation. You may feel better in some ways yet worse in others. During this time I can be there for you and with you to sort it all out.
OFFICE and TELEPHONE CONSULTATION BY APPOINTMENT:
Individual Counseling: Hours By Appointment Monday-Thursday
1pm to 9pm. Session Duration: 60 min. Fee: $85
Relationship Counseling: Hours By Appointment Monday-Thursday
1pm to 9pm. Session Duration: 60 min. Fee: $100
We work with many insurance plans; call to inquire. Sessions 45 min.
Couple Intervention: Priority Appointments Available 7 Days Equals Approximately 3 Separate Visits. Session Duration is 120 minutes.
Fee: $200 (during regular office hours, $250 special arrangement)
No-Nonsense Identification of Issues/Responsibilities/Strategies--
Strongly Recommended At Start Of All Couple Counseling. This
unique Couple Intervention is NOT covered by any insurance.
"Careful Counseling At A Critical Time" Remember, until you consult with me, you haven't done everything in your power to save your love relationship. But it is extremely important to ACT NOW before it's too late! Your partner's participation is not necessary at this time. Just call me
at 518.943.1000 Dr. Rick
