Rescue Love
Couple therapy for infidelity, distrust, betrayal
“Begin counseling with or without your partner’s immediate participation.”
RECT (Rational Emotive Couple Therapy) is highly specialized intervention that can take place with or without your partner’s immediate participation, but of course, is aimed at ultimate reconciliation, if at all possible.
DR. MADDEN’S RESCUE LOVE
MARITAL TREATMENT FOR INFIDELITY
- Declare the end of marriage #1 — it has brought you to this point, but that ship has sailed
- Identify past/present betrayal, hurt, anger, distrust
- Stay, leave? Coping with disaffection & uncertainty
- REBT to reduce distress & make rational decisions
- RECT for critical skills to possibly build marriage #2, the marriage you want!
What is the process of Rational Emotive Couple Therapy (RECT)?
My intensive focus is on stopping the present damage (the love-killing “process of disaffection”), preserving what positive connection remains, identifying the emotional wounds (past/present hurt, disappointment, betrayal, distrust, resentment), and planning a strategy for possible relationship-building while accepting that each partner (whether living together or separated) is in a very different emotional place with very different present needs.
How can you help us?
I don’t judge or make marital death pronouncements. No one has a crystal ball, but RECT can change partners’ perceptions, judgements, feelings and behaviors to increase emotional connection, intimacy and trust. Throughout Rescue Love RECT our work together — both individual and conjoint sessions — I remain devoted to helping you explore options and learning skills to work toward creating the marital relationship you desire.
FIRST: One partner couple therapy*
One partner couple therapy acknowledges three realities:
- Partners rarely are equally motivated toward therapy or working toward positive change
- Insurance supports couple therapy only secondary to individual therapy
- You can learn specific skills and strategies for inducing powerful positive change with or without your partner’s participation at this time in couple therapy
NEXT: Conjoint couple therapy*
Conjoint couple therapy explores specific goals and relationship skills:
- Whether or not to create a "therapeutic separation" and if so, when and how to do it
- Learn/apply effective skills to improve communication, intimacy & well-being
- Master emotions, practice acceptance & build the foundation for marriage #2
* All therapy is virtual and HIPAA/HITECH compliant video or telephone. Teletherapy allows conjoint sessions with partners in different locations and on different devices – it’s great! For couple counseling clients — both individual and conjoint — expanded weekend hours are available.
Call Dr. Madden at 518.225.7707 to discover more or to schedule an appointment.
WHY HAPPY COUPLES CHEAT by Esther Perel (TED Talk)
Dr. Madden provides professional services for marriage counseling, marital counseling, couple counseling, relationship counseling, marital therapy, marriage therapy, couple therapy, and relationship therapy in Albany, Schenectady, Troy, Colonie, Latham, Loudonville, Clifton Park, Guilderland, Delmar, Glenmont, Slingerlands, Scotia, Rotterdam, Altamont, Catskill, Hudson and the Capital District, Capital Region, Hudson Valley and Albany Area in New York.
Don't wait for your partner to be ready. YOU alone can initiate POSITIVE CHANGE!
518.225.7707